Posted by: ButterflyMoms | January 7, 2011

The GIFT OF OPRAH REJECTING ME…


Beautiful Sophia's First (and only) Birthday

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

We all have goals that get SHATTERED at some point. It’s what you do with the pretty shiny pieces that either shuts down your life or gives it a wonderful new road to take.  One of my goals has been to be ON the Oprah Show. I’ve had that dream for over 20 years. It comes more from my gutt than my head, if that makes sense to you. I have had a few cool near misses to connect with Oprah….Like back in the 1900’s 😉 I interviewed to host a show on her network OXYGEN and made it to runner-up. ARGHHHHHHH SOOO CLOSE!!!!! 😉 Most recently I applied to be a host of my own show on Oprah’s new network, OWN. I did not even make it to the top 40. Did I lose? Did I get the results I wanted? The ending I wanted SHIFTED into something else. What I learned from the experience  was to:

1. Ask for what I want. I had to go WAY outside my comfort zone to ask people for help to create the video I needed some said “no” but some said “YES!” too!

2. Carve out time for the things that are important to me. Waiting to do these things until everything else is done is not a life anyone wants to live, the proof is all around you!

3. Be flexible in what comes at you. See things as useful feeback so that you can flow vs stand stiff. You gain more power that way as long as you know what your main goal/passion is. It just might look different that when you first saw it, simply adjust and move forward.

4. Put yourself out there. You’ll NEVER regret putting yourself out there but you will regret (and play over and over and over in your head) what would have been if you had taken that one chance.

5. Naysayers are just part of the journey. Don’t take them personally. Even when you find something you love, that fills you, you will run into people (or they will run into you! 😉 ) who want to kill your dream. They think they are being “helpful” but really they are just speaking to you out of fear – Fear that you will fail and get hurt. Fear that you will succeed and they will be stuck without their dream. Wish them well and send them on their way….without your energy! You need your energy to be present to all the wonderful things that are coming your way!

Larry Bird and Magic Johnson

I saw a special on ESPN about a month ago about Larry Bird vs Magic Johnson and how they fed off each other. They played a better game because they had someone with whom to bounce off their greatness! Oprah is like that for me, for many of us I suspect. She allows us to dream big, bigger, biggest. She is totally playing on planet Earth testing all sorts of limits to see what she can create with the time she has left. She is my LB/MJ!!!! Thinking of her gets me in MY ZONE, that of being the fire that ignites people’s souls. Because of her I am able to visit “being in my zone” more often. From that place we have built ButterflyMoms into one of THE most beloved blogs…..Here are the official stats of what you have helped to create…..

 

 

 

 

FROM THE OFFICIAL WORDPRESS FILES…..

The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

Healthy blog!

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads Wow!!!

Crunchy numbers

Featured image

A Boeing 747-400 passenger jet can hold 416 passengers. This blog was viewed about 11,000 times in 2010. That’s about 26 full 747s.

In 2010, there were 85 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 93 posts. There were 260 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 296mb. That’s about 5 pictures per week.

The busiest day of the year was August 3rd with 248 views. The most popular post that day was CONNECTING AGAIN…(AND a call from THE Oprah Show!).

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were facebook.com, butterflymoms.com, twitter.com, hollistonreporter.com, and linkedin.com.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for kelly davidson pappas, kids having fun at the zoo, nancy barton blog hopkinton, best wedding advice you ever received, and “lara fyfe”. ( I don’t get this part at all.)

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

1

CONNECTING AGAIN…(AND a call from THE Oprah Show!) July 2010
22 comments

2

The Depths of a Mother’s Desperation – Part Two August 2010
10 comments

3

The Betrayal Of A “Friend”… December 2010
12 comments

4

IT IS TIME…..To WALK THE WALK…. September 2010
31 comments

5

Honoring One of Our Beautiful ButterflyMoms Who Died Last Week… July 2010
16 comments and 1 Like on WordPress.com

 

IT’S MARIA AGAIN….

I only started the blog in May, seven months ago, and look how far we have come! I hope you have LOVED coming here. Mark your calendar. I write EVERY Friday. CARVE out time to come here to partake in the sacred that will help you feed your soul. Doing it alone SUCKS! You already know that! It only drains you. Thanks for helping us ButterflyMoms to this wonderful level! Talk about win-win!!!! YAY! Your being here CREATES CONTAGIOUS MAGIC!!! There a many more of us out there who could use our help so instead of sending a card send them the opportunity for them to get into their zone. Share  http://www.butterflymoms.com with them! (To share today’s blog with others: https://butterflymoms.wordpress.com/2011/01/07/the-gift-of-oprah-rejecting-me/)

BTW, here’s a little secret….(whispering) being on the Oprah Show is not dead yet!….I still talk to one of the producers every couple of weeks and you just never know!!! :)! (no longer whispering) KEEPIN’ HOPE ALIVE!!!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Big things are happening for 2011!!! YAY!!!!!!

My first book!!!!

My first book will be coming out at the end of January. It’s called Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire. If you would like to pre-order a copy please let me know. They are normally $25 but I am including a special price for ButterflyMoms for $19.99. If you buy two I will also include the shipping! This is an extremely proud and happy event for me because I’ve been trying to do it for 20 years!!!

I opened my own healing practice called The Sophia Center on  January 1. If you have something in your life that you need help shifting either body-wise or life-wise I am here to help you. For the month of January I will be reducing the rate of $80 for 50 minutes to only $60 for a 50 minute session. Buy a five-pack of sessions and get another $25 off (only $275). If interested please me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com so you can book an appointment and start the year off with someone who has your back!! It would be a total honor to work with you!

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Responses

  1. I love the Feed The Soul,,It’s My Favorite part of you !! You Are A bright light for many never Stop !! Your my Oprah !!

  2. Great work in keeping it all going. We as your family are all very proud of you and love you very much. You will be on Oprah.

  3. Yay Maria! Great to hear Oprah inspires you to such heights and wonderful to hear of your blog success this year. Looking froward to what you create in 2011

  4. I agree with you about naysayers. Here’s one of my favorites:

    The person who says something is impossible should not interrupt the person doing it. – Chinese Proverb

  5. Maria,
    Your inspiring and awesome as usual. You continue to make me want to reach for my dreams more & more. ( Not real estate-you know-acting !!!). I really do believe you will be on Oprah,she would be lucky & honored to have you on and those producers are going to come through for you.
    Best,
    Tim

  6. Maria,

    Congrats on your accomplishments!! So happy we met one night at the Cheesecake Factory!!! So happy for you!!!

    Sarah

  7. Beautiful Mariaaaaa!! Thank you for another inspiring, heart-felt blog! I am so glad that you turned everything around and all is POSITIVE ~ I knew that it would be. I reached out for something I wanted a few days ago and got a reply this week – I will find out for sure this week-end, but I am thrilled that I went for it!! Having been through cancer and coming thru it Cured has helped me alot! I am pretty much fearless, as far as it goes for ME(not for others, yet). You are an inspiration, Maria ~ we love you!!

  8. Great advice, Maria. Perserverance pays off. Keep us posted. With great love,
    Doreen

  9. Beautiful Maria,

    You inspire great awe in me. You are amazing and I love you!

    -Nicky

  10. Maria u are such an inspiration to sooooo many!With all u have conquered ur faith, courage and smile never faltered! I think about you often when my strength seems not to be there and i think to myself u did it and do it and so can I ! From the bottom of my heart thanks for what u do but most important thanks for being You! I have never seen anyone with so much drive and determination u inspire others to be better people!

  11. u give great heights to aim towards!

  12. What an amazing story, your journey is inspirational. I would love to feature this story and you in the March issue of YOU Magazine Digital Online. Also, you can promote your new book. Send me a email and let me know if you’re interested. Also, I will be sending you an email via maria@butterflymoms.com. Blessing

    P.S.
    I too, submitted a video audition and was not even in the running..;-)..On the negative side of things, I met her in the late 80’s and she mocked the way that I had spoken to her. I held that bitterness for so many years until I realize that she was right; my grammar was poor. lololol..;-}

  13. You are a gift!

  14. Way to make your dreams come true, keep visualizing and don’t give up. I enjoyed reading and can relate to asking for what you want being out of your comfort zone. I am a do it yourselfer from New England.

  15. You’re amazing and I’m very very proud of you!
    I know in my heart that you are on the right direction with Oprah or not…
    Muito amor

  16. Maria, I love the spirit of your blog and your entrepreneurial passion! I look forward to learning more about butterfly moms.

    I just started a new blog about networking: http://newnetworkplus.com/
    Maybe we could share some ideas?

    To your success in 2011!

  17. Maria, truly amazing you are! Continue to be blessed in your future endeavors.

  18. Congratulations my dear friend,

    These stats are awesome…just like you. You have touched so many lives…even without Oprah! Love Sophia’s picture…just beautiful.
    Love, Cath xoxoxox

  19. Maria, much of the time i’m not that onboard with your blog…way too goopy/touchy-feely/faux spirituality for me…but i certainly LOVED your blog today, and i hope i can take your advice. I don’t want to be you, but i really admire how you take the bull by the horns and live your life fully and passionately.
    And i really hope your dream comes true and you get on the Oprah show!!!
    God bless you,
    Celeste

  20. …♥⊱⊱▬▬▬◊⋙ …●๋•…

    (1) Life is short – you might not even fear sometimes that our lives at some point over? Me already. And I do not want 80 or 90 years of my life to look back and tell me that I had not lived, not made the most of my life or the life out of what others have planned or chance for me. Life is too short.
    (2) success is more likely – you stop going to a restaurant and tell the waiter: “Bring me something.” What is the probability that you get something you really tastes good? In life there is similar. If we know exactly what we want, then it is simply much more likely that we are the right steps to achieve our goal and it ultimately. to trust to chance, too, is a strategy, but why should we not help out a bit to chance? If you find out what you want, your personal success is simply much more likely.
    (3) Increased motivation and enjoyment of life – people who know exactly what they want, which in most cases there are no problems in the morning out of bed. They can not wait to start the day because they know what they live and because they want to see realized their dreams too. Knowing what you want, give us the necessary drive to do something really well and realize our dreams. So if you want motivated and leave with joy in the day? Then find out what you really want and achieve your goals
    (4) you make better decisions – at any of our day is full of small and large decisions. And, it is sometimes not easy to choose the right path when we face a crossroads. If you know but what you really want, then makes your choices much easier. Finally, you can review any decision as to whether they bring you closer to approaching what you want to or not. If you want to meet that is clearer and better decisions, then get clear in advance what you really want.
    (5) sense of feel in life – to have the feeling that one’s life has a real sense, this is probably one of the best things that can happen to you. If you look at once happy and contented people, then they have in most cases a clear idea of what they want and do not want. And that gives their lives meaning. They know what they are there. They live a meaningful life. So if you want to have the feeling to live a meaningful life, then you consider what you really want and what is not.

    There are many good reasons to find out what you really want. It pays to be to think about it. And maybe even today the right day for you to ask yourself, “What I want out of life?” and “What do I need to be happy and satisfied?”
    …♥⊱⊱▬▬▬◊⋙ …●๋•…

  21. … ♥ ⊱ ⊱ Your loving Oprah Butterfly MomsBlog: without drama and tears, without ups and downs, it rarely goes with you…. ♥ ⊱ ⊱
    But you are as you are. I like you as you are. as you are.

    PS: Your Oprah is a joint idea from different areas of the family for many years have you scribbled on a note that that the butterfly is MomsBlog success. ♥ ⊱ ⊱

  22. I loved your idea so much that I spent the week dreaming what if. . .I came up with a plan for stalled ideas put on the back burner because of life in the fast lane with two teens and a husband at the top of his ladder!
    love your blog spot its cool!
    Virginia


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