Posted by: ButterflyMoms | January 28, 2011

…And Then There Is OPTION #3!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

It is sooooooooooo wonderful to wake up EVERY Friday morning way before even the sun gets up knowing that I’m going to CONNECT WITH YOU! It feels wonderful knowing I’m feeding so many souls by just being myself! And for you, beautiful ButterflyMoms, when you CONNECT in this manner there is less DEFENSE because you can read slowly or a part of it and then come back to it later. In other words, you can process it at any speed you wish. I like to think of it like a “pitching fork” that is used for aligning notes. When you come to ButterflyMoms and let the words “tune your life” you re-align to your true life’s purpose…and that is why we are all here, after all! It’s as simple and luscious as that! So here we go…

Winter in New England...from my deck.

The last few months have been ovary-busters! WHEW-EW CHILD! Some seriously crazy stuff has been unfolding. Many people did not find it comfortable for me to be in that ICKY PLACE but I did not want to leave it because I had not processed what I was going through. I have not fully left this uncomfortable place but I have found some incredible nuggets of information. The biggest one right now is that I do not have to own what I cannot control.

Sometimes as Moms we put ourselves in the position of God/Goddess/Allah/ Buddha. By this I mean we take on EVERYONE’s issues and make it our own. This is an impossible task that has killed the life force of many of our ancestors. Think about that harsh reality!

I was doing a meditation in my energy medicine school last weekend and I realized that I was guilty of wanting to fix everyone’s problems so that they could be safe….so that I could be safe. My fear of not being safe was so big that I oftentimes did not even check in with the person to see if they wanted my help or not. HELLOOOOO REALITY CHECK! This summer I had three very strong (energetically speaking) individuals do that to me and I can tell you that from the receiving side, it does NOT feel good at all when others try to SAVE YOU WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION!! ICKY!!!! YUCK!!!!

My girls :)!

My childhood did not exactly teach me about TRUST so now in adulthood I’m sticking in my pinky toe to see if the waters of trust feel right to me. I know there is a large “reward”, amazing treasures, if I can open up, really open up to the magnificence that is all around. Being closed cuts us off from sooooooooooo much cool “stuff”!!! …..and I’m talking about experiences, not things. SIDENOTE: Author Dan Buetner studies real sources of happiness. He quoted a study that the impact of new material things only lasts 9 months but experiences add value over time. 🙂 (and THAT is why ladies and gentlemen that I LOVE to travel!!!!) 😉

So back to this idea of trying to fix everything (hope I did not give you whiplash just now by moving back to the topic from which we digressed 😉 MOMMY MARTYRS DON’T HELP ANYONE! It is a not-so-great way to use your energy and then when you get depleted you get VERY cranky, moody or both and then, much like Godzilla, unleash your wrath unto the closest unsuspecting victims. You and I both now it can get very, very icky because the anger gets so big that you either attack someone else or turn it against yourself. For many of us we don’t know there is a third option, YES my fellow BUTTERFLYMOMS!!! YES, there is a THIRD OPTION and that is to give it away!

When you let go of what you cannot control all you have left is BEAUTY!

Now that I’ve totally confused you allow me to explain…Whenever we run across something that is too much to handle simply do the parts of it that you can, no matter how small or insignificant they feel, and then for the parts you cannot handle simply give them up to….here is where the fun begins. I did a mental exercise where I realized that I could give my ickies or the things that were too big for me to handle to rocks. Yes, you read it correctly, R-O-C-K-S, ROCKS!! In my exercise the rocks actually said “GIVE US YOUR PAIN. GIVE US YOUR HURT. WE LOVE EATING THAT STUFF.” Well, I did and know what? IT FELT AWWWWWWWESOME!!! Yes it did! I felt a huge weight being lifted. I found that it works MUCH better to stop acting like God and simply give it up to Spirit. Something happens where we think we need to do it all ourselves…(how’s that workin’ fer ya?)…..and that is simply not the case. THAT is why we feel so overwhelmed and why we keep trying to fill it with more STUFF!!! Do you see it? Take an aerial view of your life. Can you see where you have done this? Can you see where you do this? Here’s your chance to feed the rocks!!!

Welcome to Option #3! It's all around us!

Now my brain is scared that I just blogged that the rocks spoke to me but in this exercise they did so I’m going outside my comfort zone and letting you know too. Hope it helps some of you out there. I know it might seem silly but SILLY WORKED for me and it just may work for you, plus it’s 1. FREE  2. Does not hurt anyone and 3. No one knows that you are doing it….unless you put it on your own blog!!! 😉

I’m hearing little feet, gotta put on my “Mommy hat”.

Great big honkin’ hugs my lovelies,



ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

Yes, and she only JUST turned 7!!! 😉


This week is the inauguration week for BFMs listing your events all over our planet. Send me your cool events that feed other ButterflyMoms’ Souls by Wed to have them included in Friday’s ButterflyMoms blog…


– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Nancy Senior in Worcester, MA…This Saturday, January 29th and Sunday 30th all day, it’s the Three Rivers Building Community Retreat! Come experience many different treatments demos including Reiki, Healings, Massage, Yoga, Raw foods and more. Affordable and fun! For more info: . I’m going with my girls Sat morning! Come join us!

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Betty Ripley, Holliston, MASewing 101 Class. Come learn how to sew in a class environment that is supportive and fun. The way Betty knows how to teach a class it simply just another form of meditation. The four week class starts Monday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. I’m taking the class too! For more details call Maria 617.877.3616. Betty is also teaching a quilting class and has kids’ classes.

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Becky Geer-Linnell, Medway, MAKniting 101 & Beyond Class. Just like the sewing class this is an incredibly fun way to connect to yourself by doing something that human being have been doing for thousands of years. Come learn how to knit in a wonderful environment. The four week class starts Tuesday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. For more details call me 617.877.3616.

ButterflyMoms ROCK! (get it?!) 😉

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Maria Salomão-Schmidt, Holliston, MA AND ALL OVER THE WORLD!Stitch n’ Bitch Get Together at Doug Sent Me Green Cleaners in the downtown of an idyllic New England town called Holliston, Massachusetts. It was sooooo incredibly cathartic. It was so wonderful that the people who came asked if we could do it again in two weeks instead of a month. If you don’t live close enough to Holliston to come Thursday, Feb 3 from 6-8pm then join your own group. Building community is another way we feed our soul and it’s FREE! For more info go to their official site….

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PS  WONDERFUL NEWS!!! My first book “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire” was shipped on Monday!!! For ButterflyMoms who order it online it is discounted to $19.99 for ButterflyMoms (down from $25). Please order a copy and recommend to your online friends. Click here to buy, and post the link on your Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, …. WHEW WHO!!!!!!!!


  1. I like option 3! Sometimes my option 3 is to give it to the water … dive in and let it soak up all my negative and supercharge me with postivie.

  2. I Love It ! Rocks it is !

  3. Kind of puts geology into a different light! Thanks for the soul-check, Maria. I needed it especially this week. Muah!

  4. I love rocks, I collect the ones that don’t mind leaving where they landed and travelling with me. They are all my favorites but the one that looks like a butterfly and came off a mountain road in VT is tops. But damn, I never talked with them. To them yes, but now I am going to listen too! 🙂
    Love you Maria, you are TOPS too!!!

  5. I have ordered my book!

  6. re your trust issues…reminds me of the funny story the priest told this morning. maybe you might get some message from it, and if not, at least a smile or a laugh!:
    a little boy was vacationing with his family and they went to church on Sunday morning. He listened intently to the sermon, then his family went back to their motel, ate lunch, and then went to the beach. He was about to go out in the water, but then he looked around and found what appeared to be a nice, kind, older woman. He went up to her and asked her if she was a Christian. Somewhat surprised, she said “yes.” Then he asked her if she’d gone to church this morning. Again she answered yes, but was still more perplexed. Finally he asked her, “Then will you hold my quarter for me while I go swimming?” !!!
    See, Maria, there’s always someone around you can trust! God bless you!

  7. ♥♥ Melody of your life
    1.I am awake … * smile * and got up early, as always … enjoy the sunrise and the silence … to seize the day … before he comes to an end. Because every day is finite, as our lives as well. Every born again in the morning and every death in the evening reminds me of the finiteness of my life … and I dare each day … in order to live properly and to take life … and make the most of it …

    In the evening.
    They are dancing to the tune let our hearts! Listen carefully … I would follow the rhythm of your heart that leads you through the night, through gorges and rock. And find your center as you feel, how you manage with an unprecedented ease a universe of feelings and thoughts. An order in which you finally find your place. The place you’ve long been looking for. He is there in you, in your midst … Enjoy the dance of your life!

    ♥♥ 2.The last few months have been excited and interesting! It was a great learning process to pay attention to important things that we overlook sometimes through daily work of life. Some things are through with intensive become a real nice development of the soul.
    Many people were not comfortable because they have not understood your soul and have left you in difficult moments alone. Therefore, you must stay still, because your processing of the soul is not over.
    We all make a lot of people in life. The true love of your life gives you the strength and courage to life with light and joy to enjoy again.
    Your place is in your partner’s heart and left an uncomfortable place does not exist. There are no incredible nuggets of information. Everything is fine. and life is beautiful. Where there’s a will, there’s way to happiness.

    ♥ ♥ 3. During my childhood I lived as a child in an at least outwardly protected space. The most important people are the parents, with them, I’m eye to grow as a child, they are directly involved in my development. When I was a child confronted with unknown situations, I can ask parents for advice and help and I know when my “defenders”. Everything bad in the world is still possible, kept away from me kid, I should be able to enjoy from the perspective of adults, a possible pure, untainted childhood. But there comes a time when I was confronted with as a child I held the remote part of reality. I suspected that there is next to the beautiful things of the world and bad, which were hidden until then before me.
    As a child I realized perhaps for the first time I separated from adults and that time is imminent, in which I’ll be on my own. I will even have to defend themselves against threatening, I will not be long protected apparently. Also, this transition from childhood to adolescence is for me as a child, not an easy task. Child and parents feel the imminent change to the adult age.

    ♥ ♥My love 4.Love, hope, despair all these things to rest in the black night of a thousand dreams. But then came a wonderful moment in my life, whose experience as much as the warmth of the sun. You have the fire lit in my heart. The fire of love is the fire of my heart, and it burns only for you. It will never go out or burn up in the darkest days, but will light up every night.
    I could never figure out what love is. It was perhaps the warmth of my heart to feel. There were moments when one has found the key to my heart. And has drawn the sword, the enclosed, like a rock. The moment of love tore it out of the rocks and gave rise the heat. You went way over the bridge to my heart and in the end maybe you’ll also find my loving heart access. I know that I had already ignited and your fire. Do you feel the fire and the love in your heart? It is the fire of love, your love and my love for you.
    You let me add a few words. Life, honesty, comfort, joy, pleasure, tears, despair, laughter, and much more. These are all things that are part of, to love and be loved. You found the stone on which these components of love are engraved. You read, you feel and you are in a direct way to my heart, that lives for you..

    But I also wish you all the love from the heart ♥

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