Posted by: ButterflyMoms | November 18, 2011

How to Have the Perfect Adult Temper Tantrum…


Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms Community,

With all this “different” weather we have been having it’s hard to tell but if you turn on your radio you will see that the “HOLIDAY” season is upon us. If we break down the word it means HOLY DAYS. Take that in for a moment, when you think about the triple threat combo of Thanksgiving * Xmas/Kwanza/Hannukah * New Years Eve/Day do you FEEL “HOLY” or do you feel STRESSED?

Let that REALLY sink in…Take a DEEP DEEP BREATH here for this is a GREAT BIG JUICY lesson…if you let it be…YOU get to CHOOSE which story you want by HOW you live your life. Honestly, check in with yourself, it’s just you and me right now, here playing with these words…YOU ARE SAFE. Check in with yourself and notice if you are living YOUR life… or the life someone else told you to live. (BREATHE) This is NOT a ONE-SIZE FITS ALL LIFE! People have lived that way for a long time but the growing AWARENESS is shifting that. There are people who are very MAD that the SHIFT is happening…mainly because they followed the rules of the LAND OF SHOULD. They sacrificed their dreams. They worked HARD. Did what they were supposed to do even if it meant sacrificing their inner voice/callings, and now the rules are all shifting. They are shifting at a historically huge pace!

Now I used the word SACRIFICING…let’s break down that word. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary TO SACRIFICE means “destruction or surrender of something for the sake of something else.” We were killing our inner individual voice for the sake of a larger group. Fitting was almost always necessary for survival so at that time it made a lot of sense.

So for eons we have been giving their power to the structures of our societies (organizations, families, traditions). This was just assumed for thousands of years… and NOW we human beings are re-thinking WHAT IT MEANS TO LIVE. We may still give our power to these institutions but we do it more mindfully than ever before. For those who are not being mindful and just operating in their THIS IS WHAT I’M SUPPOSED TO DO mode, you are creating the perfect storm for the perfect ADULT TEMPER TANTRUM…. Stressing over money, Cramming more things into your already bulging to do list, Surrounding yourself with energy vampires, Not liking what is reflected back in the mirror, Not fitting into your fat jeans, Eating highly processed foods, Drinking too much, Sleeping too little, Moving too little…these are all things that bring you more and more OUT OF ALIGNMENT with your TRUE SELF. When that happens the little kid inside of you that you have been ABUSING and/or NEGLECTING will momentarily show you just how much she is DISAPPOINTED. Be kind to her. Be kind to your SELF.

So where do you start? START WHERE YOU ARE. Right now, check in. Might feel different at first, especially if you don’t often listen to you and your needs but practice it more and more. If you are feeling STRESSED know that is you losing energy. Find ways to FLOW with your day instead of cramming, worrying, excusing, complaining, dreading your way through it. SHOW UP FOR YOU! Right now list three things you can do to FEED YOUR SOUL…RIGHT NOW! Write them down. It will first start with little things and will eventually grow to big things.

I have been doing this for months. The ButterflyMoms group I run has inspired me in soooo many wonderful ways. The courage those who have come have shown is simply inspiring. (AHHHHHHHHHHHH!) (sigh) For months I’ve been doing these little things so today I’ve built up the courage (and CARVED out the time) to go to Boston for the day to go start writing my next book! It feels scary and awesome! I always feel soooo good when I’m in a city and Boston and I go way back. I feel sooooo good there…I know I’m repeating myself but it bears repeating! Today is an adventure. It will be interesting to see what I come up with…but that is living! 🙂

Speaking of living…this HOLY DAY SEASON, add some AWARENESS to where you are “planting” your thoughts and actions. Create as much MEANING and FUN as you can. A bumpy ride it will be but being fully alive calls for ups and downs…just like a heartbeat. Up and down is a healthy heart….a flat line heart beat is death. I invite you have the most magical HOLY DAY SEASON….evah (Bostonian way of saying “ever” ;)!!!)

Finally, next week is our 26th ButterflyMoms workshop in a row – that is a whole half a year since The Oprah Winfrey Show! Since it falls on a Thanksgiving instead of a LIVE meeting I’m going to have a 30 minute conference call at 8pm (our normal start time) to help kick off your HOLY DAY SEASON on the right foot. And instead of the normal $25 it’s only $5 for the call. Space is limited so please sign up today…

HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYONE! I’m sooooooooooo THANKFUL for you! What a wonderful journey! J Glad we are on it together!

Great B-I-G hugs,

ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Thursday night we have a ButterflyMoms workshop at 783 Washington Street in Holliston, MA at 8pm that feeds your soul. They started after Maria manifested her dream…with the help of Sophia…to be a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW and every week since she had done the workshop on Thursday nights.

*Every Friday morning, as a way of honoring Sophia’s soul, Maria gets up at 4:30am to write the weekly ButterflyMoms blog. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since.

√  Just finished our 25th week in a row of ButterflyMoms Workshops since being on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW!!!!! For our 26th we are going to try something new and fun! Since it’s on THANKSGIVING I’m offering up a 30 min conference call to help start off your HOLY DAY SEASON! And instead of the normal $25 it’s only $5 for the call. Space is limited so please sign up today…

√  I have space for two more coaching clients. If you are interested send me an email!
√  Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy Cantor’s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! !

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Blackstone 2 Bolton 1
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Millis 1
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  1. Hope you have great Holiday !! Happy Thanksgiving !!!

    • Happy Thanksgiving to you too beautiful Rei Alberto! :)! Thanks for being a loyal reader! 🙂

  2. Hi see, beautiful ButterflyMoms community, the radio is turned on, that is the “Holiday” season. A very nice, thanks giving and thank you to day

    • A super nice THANKSGIVING to you too!

      Great big hugs,

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