Posted by: ButterflyMoms | January 27, 2012

What Will YOUR River or Tears Teach YOU?

Doug this morning getting his chemo treatment to kill his B-cells.


Dearest ButterflyMoms,

Today is a different day, in terms of how I’m writing the blog. Today, instead of writing from my warm, cozy home, I’m writing from one of Mass General Hopsital’s off-sites, located right across from the Boston Garden….Today, my beautiful, beloved husband is getting another chemo treatment for his auto immune disease, vasculitis. He needs to get one every few months in order to stay alive. The bitch of it is that while these treatments are saving his life…for now…they are also destroying his body’s precious organs and systems. (BREATHE…more for me than for you.) Because of his illness he will need to get this for the rest of his life, but it’s also killing his immune system.

I feel scared. I let it wash over me. I go through waves of thought of “how to be” with this information. Sometimes I want to completely ignore it (which I can do VERY well, turns out). Sometimes I want to cry and cry and cry which I allowed myself yesterday with one of my friends who was wonderful at simply holding that space for me. What a gift to give someone, the space to simply let them get the emotions out while you bear witness. No judgement. No suggestions. Just holding the space. Feels soooooo good the recipient. Wish we could give gift certificates in it. They would “sell out”.

Last week in Boston while taking the kids to the New England Aquarium... FUN!!!

Where I am right now, as I sit next to him watching the liquid going into his veins, is at peace. It does not mean I don’t feel sad, but it does mean I am realizing, after all that energy release, that for RIGHT NOW he is safe. If I project into the future I am a MESS. I did that last year and it was a futile exercise in wasting energy. For right now, he is here. For right now, I am able to look into his eyes, kiss his lips, hug him, hold his hands. We have the gift of RIGHT NOW. All of us have this gift but most of us squander it worrying about what fears we can project into the future or something we wish we could change from the past. One gift that Doug’s illness has brought us is the gift of realizing one of life’s most precious gifts…the gift of BE-ING PRESENT, the gift of RIGHT NOW.

Doug, if you are reading this… this blog is dedicated to you and all the adventures we are having RIGHT NOW! These moments are PRICELESS! I am honored to be sharing my life with you. Truly honored. Thank you for helping me become a better person. 🙂 I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Great big hugs,


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  1. Thank you for sharing yourself, your highs and your lows, I’m honored to have you in my life. xxx

    • Thank you for taking the time to share you comment beautiful Karen. Thank you for teaching me about friendship. You are a joy to have in my life!

  2. Maria,
    As I read your blog this thought was flowing through me, “the chemo is not destroying his immune system, tell his body the chemo is not destroing his immune system.” His body is strong, vital and it knows how to heal. it will heal, it will rejuvenate, it knows how to return to it’s natural state of good health!!”” Have you ever heard of Adam the Dreamhealer? He has visualizations for working with the body and it’s natural ability to heal.
    Sending healing loving thoughts to Doug and to you my love!!! He’s strong and so is his body!!!
    Love you

    • Thank you beautiful Sandy! I’m soooo thankful for this information. Oftentimes I feel frozen. If it were happening to another family I could help them energetically but this feels too close, like I don’t have the same perspective. I really appreciate what you wrote. I trust your instincts. You have done your work. You are powerful. You are whole. You are amazing. I will definitely check out Adam the Dreamhealer. (sidenote when we did the journeying this weekend my tool was a “radiator”! Weird, I know so when I just wrote Dreamhealer, it first came out Dreamheater 😉 What a hoot! 😉 Life is nothing but “interesting”. LOVE YOU!

  3. Thank you for sharing your inner most thoughts and feelings. I too am honored to be sharing my life with you.
    I love you.

    • It’s officially a LOVEFEST and I love having front row tickets!!!! :)! LOVE YOU! LOVE YOU! LOVE YOU!

  4. Love you all! Sending big hugs your way.

  5. I will be looking into Adam the Dreamhealer. Maria, thank you for sharing your heartfelt thoughts and life experience. We can all learn from the love you share. Sending healing thoughts and white light to Doug.

  6. My heart goes out to you both. Feeling your pain and love your coming to and living:

    “One gift that Doug’s illness has brought us is the gift of realizing one of life’s most precious gifts…the gift of BE-ING PRESENT, the gift of RIGHT NOW.”

    What a gift to each other, your family and the world. Would that we all recognize that before it’s too late. My post on my blog this week very much reflected BEing in the Moment – I called it “Magic Moments – Preserving Memories”. –

    Boundless blessings and love.

  7. Much love to you both… Mindful that it was at MGH that I first met you guys…

  8. Maria…ditto what Sandy said! Write those words down and make them your mantra….Doug, too….know them, own them…and repeat them….and know that the love you send out, be it through your blog or a warm wonderful hug, is coming back to you one thousand fold! Sending healing, peaceful thoughts, love and GINORMOUS hugs to you all.

  9. Sending you and Doug blessings.

    Love, Linda

  10. My prayers are for comfort and physical healing from the effects of the meds for Doug and comfort and peace in your heart for you. I cannot imagine the thoughts you are both having about how life is now.

    From what you wrote today, it seems that you are dealing with the emotional upheval very well. You both “get it”.

    Please know that your Creator is well aware of this journey that you are both on and He experienced pain and suffering too because He wanted to be able to identify with you and Doug.

    This world is imperfect, He wants us to share in the New World to come where there is no more suffering – only LOVE eternally.
    Love & prayers, Joanie

  11. kiss

  12. ❤ to you and Doug.

    Isn't it wonderful being in love! Being love!

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