Posted by: ButterflyMoms | March 30, 2012

What Do YOU Use To NUMB OUT?

Some of the supplies for the ButterflyMoms Retreat at the Peace Abbey in Sherborn, MA! This was only one carload...we had two! 🙂

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

WHAT are you FEELING? Do you oftentimes find yourself NUMBING OUT? Life seems to be coming at us at FULL-THROTTLE and we maybe get a little scared…and reach for something to comfort us… might be alcohol, might be shopping, might be doing our “should’s”, might be doing our “have to’s”, might even be zoning out in front of the TV. Whatever your disconnection tool of choice I invite you to bring awareness to your life.

Working on a project at the ButterflyMoms Retreat last Saturday.

Especially in American, when we FEEL something that is icky the immediate HABIT reaction is NUMB it! Headache? Take an Ibuprofen. Going into labor? Get an epidural. Child acting out? Medicate her. Feeling tired and cranky this morning? Get a coffee….. Hmmmmmmm, how does that sound to you reading it? Did you read it slow enough? I invite you to read over the list again. How do you FEEL when you read it. What judgements and justifications come up when you read it?

We had yoga at the ButterflyMoms Retreat! 🙂 Some even took it for the first time.

I come from SOURCE ENERGY. YOU come from SOURCE ENERGY. Event the “dickiest” people on this people who have been “mean” to you come from SOURCE ENERGY. We are all here on Planet Earth to learn. FEELINGS are the main way that SOURCE ENERGY “communicates” with us. It’s really a very, very simple process. When you are you are IN ALIGNMENT with your life, YOU FEEL JOY. When you are out of ALIGNMENT with your life, YOU FEEL DISCORD (pain).

Amazing vegan and vegetarian meals were served.

Now if you look at life this way what happens energetically to you if you feel pain and then shut your feelings down because you don’t like how they feel? That is the same to me as being in a car and seeing that the fuel gauge say EMPTY and you say, “I hate seeing that fuel gauge on empty! I think I will go to the mechanic and have that device removed.” Where would you be then? If we compare it to our lives, it is a simple wonderful analogy because from doing decades of coaching with people I have seen how many of us, especially moms find themselves on the side of life’s road, broken down, looking for an answer outside of themselves. So in this example we have no more fuel left but we have also shut down the natural mechanisms that let us know when we need to fill up. We try to polish the car. We change the tires. We see other cars whizzing by and wonder what is wrong with us. We buy a tent and pretend that spot is where we choose to be but really we have no more energy to go anywhere else. This way though no one knows that. Our “little” secrets of feeling less than others is “safe”…and we are imprisoned.

Some of the attendees to the ButterflyMoms Retreat in Sherborn last Saturday.

I invite you this week to FEEL what you are FEELING. When you refuel yourself this week with a bit more sleep instead of TV, for example, you are taking the tape off your fuel gauge and realizing you need to stop for gas. For humans our STOPPING for “gas” is STOPPING for SLEEP, STOPPING for WATER, STOPPING for NUTRITIOUS REAL FOOD, STOPPING FOR A HUG, STOPPING FOR_______________ (add yours).

I wish for you a love affair with your life this week. May you REMEMBER that you come from the same molecules that make the stars and rainbows on this planet. May you have a blast ripping the tape off your gas gauge and choose to PLAY with the FEELINGS that come your way… Our time on this planet is limited. Do you really want to spend your time numbing out? There is no RIGHT answer only AWARENESS so you can CHOOSE. Ignoring something is also a choice. It is your life. Design it your way.

Great big hugs,



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  1. Great message. Let’s not forget when totally exhausted and overwhelmed be mindful of the urge to reach for that wine or cookie…. Thank GOD it’s Spring! XO, Mariaaaa

    • Thanks for your comments beautiful Corinne!

      Great point! So many times I’m exhausted and need to go to bed but instead I stay up to watch TV and eat.
      Great dose of awareness.

      Love you,

  2. Excellent blog this week, Maria! I definitely “numb” with TV, and have (mostly in the past) numbed with food as well. Yet, I still have to make myself stop whatever I’m doing and eat, as well as stop myself to go to sleep. And yes, sometimes I numb myself with a gigantic “to-do list!” As I become more and more aware of these things that aren’t serving me, I am able to stop “tasking” more often to eat small healthy meals, exercise, enjoying the outdoors, getting to bed at a decent hour, and taking time out to be with friends, as well as taking time out to spend with my husband. I’m even carving out time for reading & music…things I love dearly but put on hold when I’m busy.

    Thanks for writing this one today! It really speaks to me. 🙂
    MISS YOU & the beautiful Butterfly moms!!! –SC

    • Thanks Beautiful Suze!

      Great big hugs,

  3. Excellent blog this week, Maria!!! I definitely use TV to “numb,” and have (moreso in the past) used food to numb. I often have to make myself stop whatever I’m doing to eat small healthy meals, and also stop to go to bed at a reasonable hour so I’m not too exhausted. I’ve also used a gigantic “to-do list” as a way to numb. As I get more aware of these things, I find I stop more often to eat, exercise, spend time outdoors, play with my kids, take time out for myself with friends and with my husband…I’ve even started to take time out for music and reading…two things I love but put on hold whenever I’m busy.

    Thank you for writing this one today! It really speaks to me!!! 🙂
    MISS YOU, and the beautiful butterfly moms!!! –SC

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