Posted by: ButterflyMoms | June 1, 2012

Punishing Ourselves… Why do we do it?


Our Isabella having a pouty moment…

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Punishing ourselves… WHY do we do it? There are things that our heart calls us to. We know with every fiber of our being that it is our “path”. It feels good. It is something that we love to do, but for some reason, we block it.

This week I ran into a dear friend who was most recently in a very verbally abusive relationship. Let’s call her Mary. Mary is a beautiful person inside and out yet she was in a romantic situation that was soul-crushing and non-nurturing but predictable. The fear of being alone created a STUCK ENERGY in Mary’s life, which got increasingly painful to stand.

After creating a list of what she wanted in a partner and putting it in a place where she can see it all the time she magnetized a wonderful partner. This would normally be the happy-ending part of the story but interestingly enough Mary has discovered herself sabotaging the situation. It does not make sense even to her but she is still observing herself doing it. It is one of those things that make you scratch your head and go, “Hmmmm.” Why do we do this? (not the scratching but the PUNISHING/SABOTAGING ;).

Ask yourself, “Where is this kind of thing happening to me right now? Where am I finding myself blocking Myself from my own desires?” When you notice it, I invite you to lovingly look at the situation… without judgment. What are you feeling? What are outcomes you cannot even think about right now because you are in defense?

To find out what the specific solution is for you it is important that you remember that YOU are a spirit who has the amazing privilege of having a body. (deep breath here – REALLY GET THAT because it is one of the key “ingredients” of being happy – GRATITUDE is one another key “ingredient” is AWARENESS). You have many wonderful tools and gifts from mother earth that can help you thrive on planet earth. The key is to start learning what they are and to ask for them. You have guides all around you. Just ask for help and you will start uncovering the magic of what being a human being on earth can really be like!

Great big hugs,



Our new foster child Bea having an internal temper tantrum.

ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Thursday Night we have a BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP at 783 Washington Street in Holliston, MA at 8pm that feeds your soul. They started after Maria manifested her dream…with the help of Sophia…to be a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW and every week since she had done the SOUL SUPPORT GROUP on Thursday nights. There was only supposed to be one workshop but people kept asking to be able to come the next week and the next week and the next week until a whole year has gone by!!!!Any questions call my cell at 617.877.3616.

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  1. Wonderful, thank you for the reminder

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