Posted by: ButterflyMoms | June 22, 2012

Sophia’s Angel Date is Today… Six Years Have Come and Gone!


Thank you Aunt Diane for this amazing tribute for Sophia!

Today’s ButterflyMoms blog is dedicated to the outstanding members of Holliston’s Police and Fire Department who responded to our nightmare 911 call, when our beloved 13 month old daughter Sophia had suddenly stopped breathing and died. THANK YOU does not even begin to address the gratitude we feel for you! YOU ARE IN OUR HEARTS! WE SEE YOU! 🙂

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

I have been writing and re-writing this blog because everything is constantly shifting here. I hope you take the time to read it with an open heart and maybe even open up a shift for yourself. (smile)

WOW! (deep breath) So today is the day… It is hard to believe that it has been six years since our beloved 13 month old Sophia suddenly died. (pause) I am feeling so many raw emotions right now that it’s like being inside of a tornado, without the calm part. (sigh)

So last night’s ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group was one of the best ever for me, personally, because I was able to feel safe enough to crack my heart wide open and feel the loss of our beloved Sophia in front of everyone. I had done it privately but not that deeply in public.

A week before she died on the very spot she died…

For me there is a fear of grieving in public. I fear that people will judge me because I’m “not over it” yet. The fear has always been that if I let myself “go there” and let others see the INTENSELY DEEP PAIN I HAVE EXPERIENCED OF ACTUALLY SEEING MY BABY SUDDENLY DIE BEFORE MY EYES, they would judge me and see my darkest weaknesses. Sure people publicly say it’s fine but sometimes when you look into their eyes they don’t want you to “go there” because they don’t want to be reminded there is a “there”.  They just want to live in their calculated box.

For me, in my grieving process, the best thing you can do when you are around me to help me deal with my grief is BE AUTHENTIC. To be authentic you need to be present with the other person. So, regardless if they are mad or sad DO NOT TRY TO FIX IT, just let them feel what they are feeling.

Sometimes having a safe space to process what is coming up is the best “gift” you can give someone because you are letting them process at their own pace. It might be extremely uncomfortable but THAT IS THE GIFT, to sit with someone as they birth their pain and grief out of their body and release it.

Sophia and Mialotta, Irish twins who ADORED each other!!! They were inseparable!

To me, that is one of the best gifts anyone can give… and the incredible women who showed up to the ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group yesterday did just that, they gave me the gift of grieving! Thank you for helping me clear out some of my deepest ickies! It feels sooooooo much better! THANK YOU!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Thursday Night we have a BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP at 783 Washington Street in Holliston, MA at 8pm that feeds your soul. They started after Maria manifested her dream…with the help of Sophia…to be a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW and every week since she had done the SOUL SUPPORT GROUP on Thursday nights. There was only supposed to be one workshop but people kept asking to be able to come the next week and the next week and the next week until a whole year has gone by!!!!Any questions call my cell at 617.877.3616.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria gets up at 4:30-5:00am to write the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Tell your friends… https://butterflymoms.wordpress.com
WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL…

√  Next BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP is Thursday, June 28 at 8pm. It is a wonderful way to come learn to feed your magnificent soul!… The ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group grew out of the amazing experience had of being on of THE OPRAH SHOW’s very last guests. Now it’s your turn to come to this safe place where you can work out your blocks and talk about your dreams!!! Held at the offices of Brick House Realty (783 Washington S, Holliston, MA). Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in the back lot… and come right in the back entrance. Only $25, or just $20 if pay through Paypal http://bit.ly/mS7c70. RSVPing this time is necessary so we have enough supplies for the surprises that are going to happen! Bring your friends!!!

√  I have space for one more coaching/healing clients. If you are interested send me an email maria @butterflymoms.com

√  Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

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love you

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Responses

  1. You remind all of us every week how important life is ! I wished that i could take some of that grief you still carry around with you and carry it for a while for you…My heart is always willing to do anything to help the people in my life. I Love you Maria !!! Thank Doug and your family for sharing you with all of us !!

  2. XOXOXO!!!!

  3. She is as deeply loved as you are.

  4. Wonderful Blog Maria, sending you love xxxx

  5. Wonderful blog, Maria. Once again the honesty, love and raw emotion with which you write has brought me to tears. You are an amazing woman, and I feel so blessed to have met beautiful you and your beautiful Doug! Thank you!<3

  6. It’s so amazing that through your grief and sorrow you help us all be better every day. Sending you love and hugs …

  7. Maria,
    It is so very hard to feel that depth of pain but it does your body good to release it. I fear being too vulnerable in front of people too so thank you for sharing and making me feel more comfortable with being real and authentic.
    Bless you sweetie!!!

  8. you may always grieve openly with me…as i will grieve with you! i took the call at hpg for dr. zisblatt that day, and my heart was broken with, and for, you. (i was titled “receptionist”, but my mission was personal!). as the days went on, and I held you up to the Father, there were never any words….but He knew, and knows, the pain that will always be there for you. may you ALways take comfort in the gift that He gave to you….that permeated this world with her smile, and her laugh, and all that gave you joy!! she is not gone, as the heart will always carry her….she is waiting, with her smile, in a far better place!!! God’s blessings, maria, as you remember….and cherish!

  9. I’m glad you were able to grieve deeply and feel safe. Not easy for me even in our HTP group. It’s so important that people are there to support you in your grief and not judge you for it. It makes the world feel like a safer place to be.

    Thinking of you on this day. Sophia came to you because of love even if it was for a short time.

  10. Maria, first I would like to say that you and Doug are fantastic people. You both are an inspiration. I want to say I’m glad I was there for you that morning but it doesnt seem fitting. We did our best but sometimes that is not enough. I appreciate the wonderful compliment and I will pass it on to the crew that was with me that morning. Thank you. Iv’e heard it said that god takes a life and gives a life. Ironicly, as I noticed the date of June 22, my son and daughter in law just had their first child Saturday night, 6-22-12 blessing me with my second grandson. I wish I had words to ease your pain, but the best I can say is god bless you, Doug and your beautiful family. Come by the station anytime for a free hug. Bob.

    • Thank you beautiful Bob! I wish that had not gotten cut off! SENDING YOU LOVE LOVE LOVE!!!

      Mariaaaaaaaaaa
      🙂


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