Posted by: ButterflyMoms | July 27, 2012

A Recipe For Depression and an Unfulfilled Life

Dear ButterflyMoms,

Last night’s ButterflyMoms Soul Support group was spectacular! Those who showed up are oftentimes a good indicator or what is going on in our society. Women, especially, are taught to put others first, no matter the cost. It is mostly automatic and deeply ingrained by our society. We’re on a treadmill for most of our days, uncomfortably wrapped up, in our never-ending to do lists. We get up, do our tasks, pay our bills, take care of our kids, try to make time for our mate (if we have one). We cram as much into each day as we can so we can “arrive” at the magical place in our heads where we can finally REST and simply BE.

The key to this is HOW YOU START YOUR DAY…for when you get up you consciously or subconsciously SET YOUR CHANNEL FOR THE DAY. If you are not consciously focusing on the things you want then almost guaranteed you are blindly and painfully following whatever has had the most influence. Could be advertising. (Before you “pooh pooh” this idea remember that there is a reason why people spend trillions of dollars on advertising. Trends, fashion, habits are all formed through the images they feed our brains.) Could also be the fear voice in your head or the voices of well-meaning people from your past who rent out space in your head.

To change the direction of your life start at the beginning … the beginning of EVERY day is the time when the rest of your day sets its trajectory. For most of us we just get up and automatically start our day without any intention or conscious thought. This is a recipe for depression and an unfulfilled life. What we shared yesterday at the ButterflyMoms Soul Support group was how to do it. How to pick a ritual that fits your life and becomes a habit. Why it is important. What is the best way to do it. I love when you see the blocks fall away and energy going back into people. They have a glow about them. There were a lot of glowing people there yesterday.

“SUCCESS” no matter how you define it is germinated and nurtured in the effortless, simple, little things we do day after day, moreso that sudden HUGE action that you hope will one day come but never really does for most of us. So if you are reading this you have a choice to stay the course of where your life is heading or change it. We all have a lot of “tools” to make that happen but they are somewhere in the corner of our lives. It is time to dust them off and make good use of what you already know and seek out the additional support and tools you may need so that you attract the EXTRA-ORDINARY LIFE that is always there waiting for you to show up in your life.

Great big hugs,



 PS Please leave a comment today. You never know how sharing what you feel affects others in a liberating way! Please take a moment and write something. It is an act of love and truly means a lot!

ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Thursday Night we have a BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP at 783 Washington Street in Holliston, MA at 8pm that feeds your soul. They started after Maria manifested her dream…with the help of Sophia…to be a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW and every week since she had done the SOUL SUPPORT GROUP on Thursday nights. There was only supposed to be one workshop but people kept asking to be able to come the next week and the next week and the next week until a whole year has gone by!!!!Any questions call my cell at 617.877.3616.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria gets up at 4:30-5:00am to write the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Tell your friends…

√  Next BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP is Thursday, August 2nd at 8pm. We’ve had to cancel the last two because of illness but this next one is on for sure!!!!! (knock on wood ). Only three groups left! It is a wonderful way to come learn to feed your magnificent soul!… The ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group grew out of the amazing experience had of being on of THE OPRAH SHOW’s very last guests. Now it’s your turn to come to this safe place where you can work out your blocks and talk about your dreams!!! Held at the offices of Brick House Realty (783 Washington S, Holliston, MA). Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in the back lot… and come right in the back entrance. Only $25, or just $20 if pay through Paypal! Bring your friends!!! PLEASE RSVP to maria at butterflymoms dot com.

√  I have space for one more coaching/healing clients. If you are interested send me an email maria at butterflymoms dot com.

√  Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! !

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Take a moment and FEEL YOUR LIFE for a moment. Let the ICKIES fall away. Embrace the love. Forgive yourself for not living the perfect life your mind has tricked you into thinking you should be living.  Just be. That is all that is needed for happiness.


  1. This is a great reminder Maria … On day’s that I do as you suggest everything seems to flow easier … and on days I put other stuff first instead it ends up being a big misdirected struggle! I love your simple reminders of how to make life better ❤

  2. Thank you for this Maria. I wish I could have been there last night. I woke up today with really no agenda.. I wing-it day to day with excuses…I have to do this, or that, I have the kids… Whatever it is I’m stuck in this little funnel spinning and spinning but not coming out with the winners. This is something I know in my head, but have a hard time activating it…. like a droan. I’m sitting here waiting for the fireworks to go off. Today, I declare, I will wake up with a positive intention for each of my following days. This is, again, exactly what I needed today – No coincidences! Thank you!

  3. All good….

    Linda xoxo

  4. A wonderful reminder for me today as I trudge through my to-do list. Thank you xx

  5. Miss Maria,
    Last night was the best Butterfly Moms for me…so much progress when ready for it…you remind me to see the GIFT in the struggle…I say yes to the challenges…I say yes to the GIFTS…I say yes to LIFE!!! Thank you so much from my heart to yours…Love to you, Jennifer

  6. As always so well written and a great reminder for everyone to not just blindly follow. Thank you for your gift of helping open others to this wonderful magnificent world we live in.

  7. What a wonderfully RELEVANT post ! Thank you ! I had just written to someone that I wished I had a magic wand to slow life down and then read your words.

  8. I love how you always find a way to remind us of some of the normal things we forget about !! Love you Maria !! Hope you are feeling better !!! I wanna cook for you and your family !!!!

  9. Reblogged this on ButterflyMoms's Blog and commented:

    Here is an oldie but a goodie… Let me know how you feel after reading it!

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