Posted by: ButterflyMoms | October 12, 2012

My Best Friend….Is Also My Lover!


In Chicago when we were guests ON The Oprah Winfrey Show. We got to sit in the VIP section with people like Michael Jordan, Tom Cruise, Tom Hanks, Beyonce, Maria Shriver, Jackie Evancho, Aretha Franklin, Stevie Wonder, Jerry Seinfeld, Madonna, Gail King, Maya Angelou, Rosie O’Donnell, Jada Pinkett Smith, Will Smith, Patti LaBelle, Josh Groban, Dr. Phil, Dr. Oz, Nate Berkus and even Stedman! What a wonderful dream come true from a twenty year old goal that was a total gift from Sophia!!!

Planning our future and savoring our present together on the “other side” of the Atlantic Ocean in beautiful Portugal!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

My beautiful husband Doug has been visiting us this whole week in stunning Portugal!!! YAY!!!!! It has been a GOD-SEND! Contrary to popular perception we don’t have the perfect relationship, but we do adore each other. Being together is a lesson in trust and love, two things that were not constant when we were growing up in our individual families. It is absolutely glorious, at least for me, to have someone with whom I can bounce things off of, wake up next to, hold hands with, walk along the ocean, play with our kids, cook together, do laundry together, explore new café’s together…

I hear from a few friends that they wish they had the same type of relationship… my question is HOW CAN YOU CREATE THAT in your own life? I have dreamed of having a partner like this my whole life. It did not magically happen it took some serious magnetizing and for a long time I kept attracting men who were not what I wanted. As the clock kept ticking, ticking, ticking… I used to think “If only I morph into what he wants me to be then he will do the same.” Uh, hello! NOT HAPPENING!

What has worked for Doug and me is to….

*BE REAL

*SPEAK YOUR FEELINGS

*LISTEN – NO REALLY LISTEN

*SET UP ADULT PLAYDATES

*SHARE DREAMS…& CONSPIRE TO CREATE THEM TOGETHER

*PLAN A ONCE A WEEK TEA DATE

*TOUCH A LOT

*EMBRACE FARTING (this took some getting used to… I still don’t always accomplish this… although the visual I have after reading this again of embracing a fart is pretty comical…which leads me to the next quality…)

*LAUGH TOGETHER

*CRY TOGETHER (The deaths of Sophia and Mandy help accomplish this. We have made it through a lot of heartache and we have grieved both separately and together. This helps a lot!

*HELP MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE TOGETHER

*EARN MONEY FOR OUR FAMILY TOGETHER

*CREATE COOL FAMILY/COUPLE TRADITIONS

*SAVOR LITTLE THINGS (that only we “get”)

It has made a world of difference having my beloved Doug here! Having a long-distance relationship… with kids is something that we are choosing to use as another excuse to have more adventures and fun in our lives…WHY? Because we know that our life has an end date…that one day we will have to say good-bye to each other, truly… and if you remember that, a lot of the other *SHIT* simply falls away. It is all about perspective and that is ours, to savor every moment to the best of our ability! May we inspire you to do the same!!!

Great big hugs from beautiful Portugal,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

PS Only four responded so far to adding cool Portuguese terms and culture to the ButterflyMoms blog so unless I hear from more of you I won’t be doing it. Let me know what you think. ALWAYS love hearing from you!

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ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

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Responses

  1. As always, so wise Maria!

  2. A big huge thank you to my beautiful wife Maria. I love that we are in each others lives and I love the magic that we create. The best is yet to come. All my love always, Doug.

    • Love this post Maria. Miss your contagious energy. Sending love to all of you.

  3. I loved this post Maria, and getting to see you guys together and having so much fun!! Missing all of you, and sending love, from: Kären plus “Shakey and the Chicks”

  4. Reblogged this on Channelcomfort and commented:
    My friend Maria writes so intelligently on the topic of relationships!!

  5. Maria and Doug
    As I read your blog to Harry we saw a mirror reflecting back to us our life together. We have always been best friends and lovers. Our “due date” on our relationship is something we can acknowledge. However having crazy fun and playing together everyday makes our relationship real and alive. Thank you for this blog. Love to both of you.

  6. Loved your post! Having your husband visit you in “our” beautiful Portugal must be quite thrilling to say the least! Enjoy each other and have tons of fun. Has he tried the famous” Pasteis de Nata” from Belem ?
    Sending you love and “beijinhos”

  7. I love ‘Help make the world a better place together’ – something I definitely dream of doing with my lover as soon as he is through his crazy schooling 🙂

  8. This is so AWESOME!

  9. I agree with you on all of these Maria. I’ve been married 30 years (last week was our anniversary!) and actually there are two more items you should add that I KNOW you and Doug do. One is TRUST. It’s not something you do, it’s something you think. Kind of like deciding to be happy—– decide to TRUST.
    The other one (which is kind of obvious for you two) is DO SOME THINGS SEPARATELY. We are married, we are not conjoined twins. So do some things you love to do WITHOUT your partner and then go home, celebrate being together and share what you each did apart.
    It’s true: absence makes the heart grow fonder.

    The fart thing is true too.

  10. Love it! Enjoy each other! xoxoxo

  11. I hope you and the girls are doing well 😉 live reading about your trip and life journey, and am forever grateful for you helping us with the beginning of a new chapter in our life 🙂

  12. This put a smile on my face! ..and yes, trust & dream together and never lose your individuality. I can also say that I am truly blessed by being able to share my life with my best friend – married 19+ yrs, together for 22+, and of course, our wonderful daughters. The trust factor is a huge component of our successful relationship! Reaching for the stars is almost effortless with that strength by your side.


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