Posted by: ButterflyMoms | January 18, 2013

What Exactly Does He Mean To Me?


At the Pena Palace (Palacio da Pena) also in magical Sintra, Portugal

At the Pena Palace (Palacio da Pena) also in magical Sintra, Portugal

Our son Christopher, our "little" boy. Cliche to say "Where does the time go, but..."

Our son Christopher, our “little” boy. Cliche to say “Where does the time go, but…”

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

So in last week’s blog I shared that I am a crossroads. Still sitting here with all these feelings and ideas to see where my intuition will take me. Sometimes being still is the answer. All the while I’m keeping my intention, “to be the fire that ignites people’s soul”, strong. That is my compass. The form it comes in is really irrelevant, just learning not to take the signs personally and really delve into their real meaning. In the meantime whatever comes out every Friday is what I’m meant to write about.

This week I want to STRONGLY dedicate this blog to my loving husband, Douglas H. Schmidt. People say stuff all the time about their mates about how great they are but Doug is really off-the-charts! Since I have met him, he has completely opened up his heart and mind and emerged into one of the most outstanding human beings I have ever met. Oh, sure he’s also one of the most handsome men I’ve ever laid eyes on, but his heart….WOW! I could start tearing up just thinking about it.

Doug getting his chemo in Boston.

Doug getting his chemo in Boston.

How does one develop a heart like his? I hope he won’t mind me telling you that for a long time his heart was closed. He was a shadow of who he is now, or to put it another way, he was not living his life from a place of AUTHENTICITY.

A week before she died our beautiful Sophia on her 1st birthday! I just LOVE looking at her beautiful face!!!!!

A week before she died our beautiful Sophia on her 1st birthday! I just LOVE looking at her beautiful face!!!!!

Our daughter Sophia’s birth with down syndrome and then dying 13 months later, after we had fallen head-over-heals in love with her, shattered our hearts. Later Doug developed a life-threatening auto-immune disease for which he had to have chemo and prednisone for years Instead of breaking him, he found a way to quietly make all these “hardships” just add more love to his life! All the while, because we are self-employed, we worked together to keep building Brick House Realty, ButterflyMoms and our Green Dry Cleaners. Through all this, Doug never stopped working or providing for his family. I am in awe of this man who runs almost every day even with “bad knees” because he can’t bear the thought of not doing ALL HE CAN to be with his kids, as long as he can. ALSO I AM VERY HAPPY TO SHARE SOME GREAT NEWS!: This Christmas was the first time in four years that he did not need chemo! YAAAAAAAAAAAAY! Our beautiful Dougie Fresh is in remission! YESSSSS!

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Doing “the snowman” at a palace in Sintra

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Paco de Arcos, Portugal

I am a little hesistant to write all this publically because most people write about problems with their husbands and I don’t know how much he is going to like me saying all this but it is true and beautiful!

Look, we are sooooo not perfect, but we truly are perfect together. This man has helped me stand in my darkest days. I am in awe of how much love Doug gives his five children, even though as a child he got very little example of how to be a good father. Doug is magic because his heart is open.

Hamming it up for Mialotta who wanted to take a photo of us... So you wanna take a photo, eh? Will give you something to take a photo of! ;)

Hamming it up for Mialotta who wanted to take a photo of us… So you wanna take a photo, eh? Will give you something to take a photo of! 😉

Lately I’ve been a bit down because my book is coming slower than I’d like and things are shifting in ways I did not expect. If you have seen my Facebook page you will see the amount of amazing motivational stuff Doug puts on their to keep my eyes on the prize! I truly “get” that his intention is for me to reach my best and highest good! Even the simple fact that on my blog, he comments even when no one else does shows how Doug is with me through the good and the bad. He shows up over and over again.

Butterflies with Doug

Butterflies with Doug

When Sophia died he was at our Brick House Realty office. I was home with her and got the gift of being able to give her CPR. It did not work and she died in my arms. NEVER once did he blame me for her death. I’m very saddened to say that if it had been reversed and Sophia had died on his watch I don’t know if I would have had the capacity to not blame him…. (sigh)… He really is an outstanding human being who because my light is so bright often goes unnoticed. My intention today is bring him directly into the light of love and acknowledge him for the kindness, love and support he has given to me, our children, our family and our community!

DSCN5310As a woman, a wife and a mother I know I’m one of the most blessed people in the world because I have found someone who believes in my dreams as much I do. I am humbled by the beauty we attract into our lives … our children, our businesses, our community, our friends, our adventures… Part of why ButterflyMoms has been so successful, and why I have had the gift to do the things I have is because I have a partner who can not ground me, but he can inspire me to F-L-Y!

Doug and Christopher at the beach Aug 2012It’s an even bigger gift because we know it is temporary. Our lives here on planet earth are not forever, no matter what the advertisements promise. People “know” that but they don’t live their lives like they understand that concept. Doug and I know one day we will have to say, “Goodbye” to each other. Might be today or might be in 50 years, but it is coming. Remembering this makes us savor our precious time together even more!

Believe it or not we even have this kind of fun at a real estate convention! :)

Believe it or not we even have this kind of fun at a real estate convention! 🙂

Thank you Doug for all the love you have magnified into my life! THANK YOU!!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHEW WHO!!!!!!!!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON?

MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL TO START 2013 OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT!…

COOL NEWS: A new state from the good ‘ole USA has been added to the amazing list of places where fans have bought my book, “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire”! Check out which state below! 🙂

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Guincho Beach

√  WORKSHOP: Thursday, January 24th, 2013. MAKING 2013 MY BEST YEAR!… Every January there is a hope that life will get better yet life seems to take over and we lose control of our vision. Come to this amazing open workshop that will share some of the very tools you need to truly accomplish your life’s mission! Can’t build a house without a hammer and nails…so come get your energetic hammer and nails! Lots of laughing and learning! Doors open at 9:45am. Starts promptly at 10:00am-12:00pm. Amazing ocean views at Quiosque Bar http://qb-quiosquebar.blogspot.pt/, Avenida Marginal, Praia de Paço de Arcos, 2770-210 Paço de Arcos, Portugal. Fee is 25€ at door. Sign up right now and get in for only 20€. Do it here..http://tinyurl.com/cslw7l4 See you there!!!!! Please RSVP so we can plan accordingly.

 

DSCN5613IMG_0861√  COACHING: For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

 

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

 

MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE-small√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

Doug and Maria on the beach doing yoga in Carcavelos with a German yoga teacher! :)

Doug and Maria on the beach doing yoga in Carcavelos with a German yoga teacher! 🙂

BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

In Sintra at the Moors Castle (Castelo dos Mouros)

In Sintra at the Moors Castle (Castelo dos Mouros)

ILLINOIS      (NEW STATE added this month!!!!! Thank you Terry Klausmeier!!!!!)

Lake Forrest 1

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

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Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4

Christopher's prom

Christopher’s prom in Holliston, MA

Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

Doug and Maria in Cascais 2012

Casa Da Guia – Cascais

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Paco de Arcos Beach

MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

OHIO
Dublin 1

RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

PLEASE BUY MY MOMMY's BOOK!!! IT's AWESOME!

PLEASE BUY MY MOMMY’s BOOK!!! IT’s AWESOME!

DSCN5476BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * **To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

The Salomao-Schmidt Family in California!:)

The Salomao-Schmidt Family in California!:)

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.

Tell your friends… https://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

Planning our future and savoring our present together on the "other side" of the Atlantic Ocean in beautiful Portugal!

Planning our future and savoring our present together on the “other side” of the Atlantic Ocean in beautiful Portugal!

In Chicago when we were guests ON The Oprah Winfrey Show. We got to sit in the VIP section with people like Michael Jordan, Tom Cruise, Tom Hanks, Beyonce, Maria Shriver, Jackie Evancho, Aretha Franklin, Stevie Wonder, Jerry Seinfeld, Madonna, Gail King, Maya Angelou, Rosie O'Donnell, Jada Pinkett Smith, Will Smith, Patti LaBelle, Josh Groban, Dr. Phil, Dr. Oz, Nate Berkus and even Stedman! What a wonderful dream come true from a twenty year old goal that was a total gift from Sophia!!!

In Chicago when we were guests ON The Oprah Winfrey Show. We got to sit in the VIP section with people like Michael Jordan, Tom Cruise, Tom Hanks, Beyonce, Maria Shriver, Jackie Evancho, Aretha Franklin, Stevie Wonder, Jerry Seinfeld, Madonna, Gail King, Maya Angelou, Rosie O’Donnell, Jada Pinkett Smith, Will Smith, Patti LaBelle, Josh Groban, Dr. Phil, Dr. Oz, Nate Berkus and even Stedman! What a wonderful dream come true from a twenty year old goal that was a total gift from Sophia!!!

Off to the beach in Portugal! Off to the beach in Portugal!

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Responses

  1. WOW ! I felt the love you two had the moment we spoke ! The day i meant him and your family was so amazing to me..That the love i grew up seeing in my parents home,,,Which by the way you don’t see in most homes today..Was so overwhelmingly present in your home…!! See how much love and connection your whole family has that day was so heart filling…It gave me hope that what i wanted was still possible !! To fine love like that is so worth it ! I hope you and Doug still are dancing together even after the curtain is closed on your show..Love you guys very much !! Watch Out !!

  2. Maria – What a wonderful, heartfelt blog that was a delight to read! Being able to connect with another soul with your heart like you have with Doug is a true gift and a blessing I’m thrilled fills & makes your life! Thanks for letting us peak inside for a snippet of it.

    Remember that many may not comment but we love “lurking” and watching from afar as you take all of your steps with courage and grace. We sit on the sidelines of your life like proud friends as we are players in our own – so fear not that you are not heard or seen! Like many of us, it sounds like you’re having a growth spurt and wondering in what direction it takes you…as you take the time to listen to the direction from your heart, know that you are loved, cherished and viewed in awe by those you see often and those who watch from afar.

    You’ve always been someone who has generated incredible energy for others and as I remember our visits in San Francisco and all that I learned from you as you took big bites from life every day. As we are faced with lies every day…from sports heroes, corporate leaders, politicians, and even neighbors…it’s so refreshing to let your authenticity envelop us.

    I hope you take the time to allow the book to come to you, rather than chasing it, and I look forward to buying it and reading when it’s truly ready. I tried to write my book two years ago but clearly was pushing against the Universe, although I couldn’t understand. Having you take the leap to Portugal and live one of your dreams was a kernel that contributed to leaving my corporate job last week…to complete my research and write a book so all can understand healthcare & how to manage the system.

    Be as fierce as we experience you in taking the time for the voice within to provide direction. Whatever choices you make and whenever they come about…there will be a large crowd waiting!

    XOXO, Joan.

    • Beautiful Joan,
      I am still crying after reading your amazing contribution of the heart. I have always SEEN you and your amazing creative energy and spunk! I am in awe of your magnificence. Your energy is authentic and deep. You come from a place of exuberance and creativity. Just thinking about you for the last almost three decades makes me feel back into my alignment, like I can do anything! I love, love, love that you are in the world! I am extremely thankful for all the love you have given me throughout the years, especially here with this one point in time when you gave me the gift of channeling your present moment. You are sunshine incarnate and you have helped me channel mine. You, beautiful Joan, have the rare ability to touch people’s souls! I know you know your life’s mission. I invite you to bring out your “inner badass” and start whipping things up! GOOD FOR YOU for leaving your J-O-B! I know that was probably really hard but servitude is a slow death. You were not born for the mediocre… Fly Beautiful Joan! I am also watching you! Sending you love! Here as your warrior ready to serve as you need to make your dreams come true!

      Great big hugs my love,
      Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
      🙂

  3. My heart is full today from reading your post and your heartfelt words about your husband. I want to run home and give my husband a giant hug right now!

  4. All I can say is wow and thank you so much for your acknowledgement. I am honored to be your partner in this life of ours that we share together. As are you, I’m looking forward to our future together and with our family. You are loved. Thank you again, now go get your book written.

  5. Can’t wait to get my book!! Beautiful blog today!! You are truly blessed and we are blessed as well that you have shared your life with us, beautiful Maria and your very handsome Doug! : )

  6. Doug and Maria, I so admire your essence as a couple and I applaud your perpetual honesty and authenticity. To your comments about Doug, I would add that he is also equally present and real as a friend. There has not been one time that we’ve hung out together that i didn’t feel he was 100% in the moment, with me, with Andrew, and with our kids. As simple as that may sound, it’s disturbingly rare. Even when, during some of our visits, Life was throwing some serious curve balls to your family – that authentic presence remained. Congrads to Doug and your whole family on being cancer-free. May Karma come back to you all a million-fold in unexpected ways, as a reflection of the Light and Love you all put out into the world every single day. With gratitude and love, Helen

    • Helen— thank you so much for your kind words. You’re a wonderful person and a special friend and I cherish the time we have spent together.

  7. That’s awesome Maria ! You know everyone has challenges and crap they have to deal with and we have no control over that. What we do have control over though is how we react and you are amazing in your ability to find the positive in any situation! We should all strive to be more like you!!

  8. Lovely xxxxx

  9. Maria – that was truly touching. As I read it, I kept thinking about your wedding day and how much fun we had and how much you and Doug have been through. I am so happy that you have each other and such a beautiful family. God bless you on the next stage of your journey. Figure it out quick, I can’t take the suspense! ….just kidding….I will patiently wait…..

  10. Going for the tissues…..Love to you both

  11. I have loved you both since the first time you walked in my shop …. I knew nothing about either of you, but the love that poured out of you guys was simply AMAZING. You, Doug and your family are truly an inspiration. You have been through so much more than anyone should go through, yet you come out smiling and teaching the world each and everytime!!
    HUGS to ALL of you!!

  12. Maria and Doug, this is the first blog I have read – I am not proficient on blogs or blogging but I had to read this one because the world needs more of you both. You teach us so much about what love and respect for each other is all about. For that short time in Boston meeting you both I hold you in my heart. Love you with my heart.

  13. So happy Doug is in remission and that you have allowed us to witness your love and commitment. Love you both of you!!

  14. Maria, Trully touching, it brought tears to my eyes, the love and respect that you both have for each other is so beautiful! You have such a beautiful family! May you always finda happiness in your life.


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