Posted by: ButterflyMoms | May 17, 2013

Do Boundaries REALLY Matter?

Me in Chicago as a guest on THE OPRAH SHOW. Oprah was in the background! :)

Me in Chicago as a guest on THE OPRAH SHOW. Oprah was in the background! 🙂

Dearest BFMs,


Today is MAY 17 and it’s a VERY special day for several reasons:

*It’s the ButterflyMoms blog’s four year anniversary!!!

My VIP Badge which gave me the access to my dreams!  PRICELESS!

My VIP Badge which gave me the access to my dreams! PRICELESS!

*It’s the two year anniversary of being a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW!!!

My mom and I on my 1st birthday in Portugal.

My mom and me.

*It’s my Mama’s 76th birthday!!!



Imagine that after an especially tough week one of your best friends  surprises you and says I’m taking you to your FAVORITE restaurant anywhere in the world! You pack your bags and head to the airport! Arrangements for your children have already been made so you are all covered there too. There is a beautiful limousine to pick you up and drop you off at the airport. You have a wonderful time on the plane catching up with your friend and feeling like a queen after the on-flight massage, pedicure and manicure (hey, we can all dream, right 🙂

When you land a limousine is waiting for you and your friend. It whisks you to your favorite restaurant. It’s the kind of place that has 8 courses of the most scrumptious food anyone has EVER tasted. Just reading the menu makes your mouth water. Take a moment to think of your FAVORITE foods. They have ALL of them, exactly like you like them! You and your friend order. As the servers begin bringing in the wonderful dishes you take each one and stick it in the blender in front of you. As soon as every dish is regally delivered to you, you turn on the blender and let it do its thing.  Drink up, right?

WHAT?!!!! WAIT!!!! If someone gifted you with this experience is that how you would want to eat this fabulous banquet? NO???? Then why would you do it with the way you life your life? When we live a life without boundaries that is exactly what we are doing. Even if each piece is perfect, without limits and boundaries it becomes basically GUNK!

Ask yourself if you are living a GUNKY life! If the answer is yes then take your first step and acknowledge it. Being “mind-full” is paramount. Just like if you’ve ever meditated (or tried to ;), it’s all about GENTLY bringing your attention BACK TO AWARENESS. AWARENESS is your gate-keeper. It is built into you. It’s is one of the gifts you get when you are born. Those who use it have a much “fun-er-er” time on this planet! Don’t miss out on the fun! How are you feeling right now? Sit with whatever feelings come up. Never judge. Just feel. Just be. Wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You are safe. Feel and let go. Feelings come from somewhere, bottling up or ignoring those feeling cause the death of your soul. Chew on that! 😉 (Pun intended!)


I invite you add your comments below about what your dream is and how you can do one thing to move it forward. This whole process is about connection and moving forward.

Great big hugs,


One of The Oprah Show's make-up artists Robert. He is FANTASTIC and phenomenal at what he does! WOW!

One of The Oprah Show’s make-up artists Robert. He is FANTASTIC and phenomenal at what he does! WOW!


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Front Row Seating to Oprah in an Audience of 13,0000!!!

Front Row Seating to Oprah in an Audience of 13,0000!!!

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Maria in front of Oprah studiosBOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

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Me and the Oprah Show camera crew who came to our house in Holliston

Me and the Oprah Show camera crew who came to our house in Holliston

ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!


  1. How time flies. Thanks again for taking the time to write and for your words.

  2. Dear Sweet Maria, Thank you for this great post – a definite reminder that most women need to read (especially me this morning – so thank you for posting!). Its hard to remember that it is OK to say “no” & not let the guilt over not being able to do everything for everyone continue to build up a lot of GUNK in your body. I guess that’s why cleanses are becoming so popular these days 😉 Slowing down, & remembering to be in the moment, and reminding ourselves that taking 15 minutes for yourself is one of the most important things we can do to keep us healthy & happy 🙂

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